Jesus Doesn’t Want To Be A Part Of Your Life


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In our seemingly desperate bid to “win souls for Jesus,” we often implore our potential converts with the classic evangelical sales pitch, “Jesus just wants to be a part of your life! Wont you let him?”

But as heartfelt and passionate as our plea might be, it simply isn’t true.

Jesus doesn’t want to be a part of anybody’s life.

He wants all of it.

But somewhere between Paul’s call to die to self and the modern age we’ve giving up on the radical call of the Christian faith. Apparently conceding the fact that most people don’t want to literally give up everything to follow Jesus, we’ve scaled things back…a lot. While the New Testament describes following Jesus as an all consuming endeavor that requires our own death so that we may become slaves to God, we’ve replaced that radical call with an invitation for people to simply make a little space so that Jesus can squeeze in and become a part of their life, alongside work, family, hobbies, (fill in the blank).

Obviously, we don’t phrase it that literally. After all, our goal is to “get sinners to the altar”. We can explain the details later. The problem, however, is that when we aren’t careful with the way we present the gospel, we inevitably end up participating in “bait and switch” ministry.

Nobody, at least very few of us, wants to give up everything, literally everything we have. We worked hard for the stuff we own. Our relationships our important to us. We’re comfortable right where we are. And we realize that the odds that many other people would respond to a radical call like “drop your nets,” “sell everything you have and give it to the poor,” or “die to self” just aren’t that high. So, in our numbers = success culture, we’ve made our evangelism pitch more palatable to the uninitiated.

We tell them on the front end that Jesus only wants to be a part of their life, with the thought being that later on we will explain to them that Jesus actually wants all of their life.

That is called bait and switch ministry.

We may not realize we’re doing it, but it happens all the time. There are lots of forms of bait and switch ministry (it’s an epidemic in youth ministry), but this particular form has become incredibly problematic for the church.

Spend any time amongst church leaders, both clergy and lay, and you’re likely to hear them vent their frustrations over not being able to get people more involved in the life of the church. As someone who was in ministry for the better part of the last decade I can tell that it seems like the church is fighting a never ending battle against layity schedules that are being increasingly consumed by school, work, sports, and family activities while time for church gets more and more squeezed out of the picture.

Those other things aren’t bad, but if it’s a tighter, more devoted community of faith we’re seeking, I don’t think we have anyone but ourselves to blame for the compartmentalization and subsequent apathy that plagues so many of our churches.

When we tell people that Jesus just wants to be a part of their lives, we shouldn’t be surprised when Jesus ends up only being a part of their lives.

The words we choose to use matter. They have meaning and that meaning shapes our response. So, for example, when we tell people that Jesus loves them just the way they are, we shouldn’t be surprise when their lives change very little after coming to Christ because if Jesus loves them just the way they are, why do they need to change anything?

Likewise, if Jesus just wants to be a part of their life, we shouldn’t be so upset or surprised to find that the church and their faith is something they participate in only when they have the extra time. After all, didn’t we tell them that Jesus only wants to be a part of their life?

I know this critique may be difficult, if not impossible to hear for some. Those of us who have grown up in the church know that the call of the gospel is a life of total devotion to Jesus. So, when we say something like “Jesus just wants to be a part of your life”, we “really mean” that he wants your entire life. The problem, however, is that others don’t hear what we’re thinking, they hear what we are saying.

The words we speak really do matter. When we get so desperate to have more butts in the pews at church that we tweak our words so they become less offensive, it’s the entire world that suffers.

The truth is that Jesus doesn’t want to be a part of your life. He wants to be your entire life because discipleship and the work of transforming the world for the kingdom of God isn’t a part time endeavor, it’s a 24/7 way of life. Being a follower of Jesus isn’t something that can be relegated to an hour on Sunday mornings. He must be pursued and the kingdom embodied every moment of every day. When we do otherwise, when we lead others to believe otherwise, even if unintentionally, we aren’t just confusing them, we’re preaching a false gospel, the result of which is a church defined by compartmentalization and apathy and the result of that is the inability to answer our call to bring the kingdom of God to earth just as it is in heaven.

I’ll say it one last time – the words we use matter. If we tell people on the front end that Jesus demands everything from them, that simple intellectual assent and part time Christianity are not acceptable, we will certainly see fewer people run down to the altars. But as Jesus said, the path of discipleship is narrow and difficult and few find it.

As the church, the success of our mission is not based on how many butts are in the pews on Sunday morning or how names we can count on our membership rolls. The success of our mission as disciples of Christ is based on whether or not we truthfully proclaim and authentically live out the gospel.

Which is why as a church we must be honest with ourselves and with those outside our doors.

Jesus doesn’t want to be a part of anybody’s life.

He wants all of it.


Grace and peace,

Zack Hunt


FROM THE VAULT: As I’m always welcoming new people to the blog I sometimes like to revisit an old post or two that sparked a good conversation, but may have been missed by those who weren’t around when it was originally posted. This post originally appeared back in 2012.